It is normal to fight with your partner whom you love also. Because where love is there fights are normal to have. Fight with your partner can be the worst because they’re tiring, emotionally draining. It is irritating and even more tiring while forcing you towards working it out. But it is essential to move on happily with your spouse again after a fight too.
Here are some suggestions that you can follow:
Avoiding communication creates tension
It is essential to decide and agree to communicate after a fight. Keeping silent helps no one. Preservation of communication can create more tension and fuel anger. Hence, you should decide on alternate methods if things are too vulnerable to verbal communication.
Setting a reasonable time limit
Without discussion and agreement, it’s not healthy to “reset” for days.
Some conflicts are serious and it may require more time but in general, the reset time is a matter of minutes if not hours. This will help to save your marriage with your spouse.
Do not depart
Walking out on your partner and the relationship is equivalent to leaving the dynamic of the relationship with no notice. If you need to go out in the air, communicate about it before you go. This will give an estimation of when you will return. This can decrease anxiety, worry, and frustration as well as the potential negative consequences of impulsive behaviors later.
It is essential to work or built teamwork with your partner to develop a system for how you will reset and hold up your end of the bargain. If you need help figuring out what your system is, or if you need some new communication tools, see a couple’s therapist for help. With this practice, over time, the fights should be less or less intense.